Erotic Elaborations

At the extremes of Eros, I can want it all or I can want nothing at all.

From a more enlightened perspective, I can allow myself to have it all or I can allow myself to have nothing at all. Subjectively, having it all might mean having all that I need or it might mean having all that I desire. Or both. Objectively, having it all can only mean having all that anyone could ever need and desire.

Having all that I need is pure ekotic satisfaction. Having all that I desire is pure erotic fulfillment. This is a crucial distinction.

When I cultivate quality, my motive is pure ekotic satisfaction, and I find such satisfaction in the homes I make, or help to make, for myself. When I celebrate vitality, my motive is pure erotic fulfillment, and I find such fulfillment through the actions I take.

What do I need? I need pure ekotic satisfaction. What do I want? I want pure erotic fulfillment.

The homes I make - in a building, a vehicle, an office - are representations of quality, indicators of value, demonstrations of worth.

My sense of place and my sense of being in-place require objects of quality that have value and demonstrate worth. Having all that I need for my sense of place and my sense of being in-place brings me pure ekotic satisfaction.

The actions I take through the choices I make - in relation to self, others, and the world - require a sense of place and a sense of being in-place. My place in space serves a vital function: to generate interest in my relations so that I might seek and meet desirable outcomes.

Much of what I seek comes through my encounters and relations with culture, technology, and community: more skill, more money, more pleasure, more fun. In my perception of having all that I desire lies my experience of pure erotic fulfillment.

But which comes first? Pure ekotic satisfaction or pure erotic fulfillment?