Allowances in First Person

In addressing structure and purpose in relation to substance and orientation, I feel compelled to begin with these allowances for myself; perhaps these affirmations resonate with your own sense of what you need or desire as you make a life of satisfaction and fulfillment for yourself:

I allow myself ... to live, love, lead ... my life ... on my own terms ... in every way possible ... naturally, effortlessly, sublimely. I allow myself ... to occupy a position ... in a place where ... I can be, have, do, and become ... whatever I will or desire ... naturally, effortlessly, sublimely. I allow myself ... to bring the substance of soul and the orientation of spirit ... into harmony ... with the purpose of my life ... knowing that structure determines behavior and purpose unifies destiny. I allow myself ... to establish the structure of my life through the purpose of my life ... naturally, effortlessly, sublimely.

Ekos Sacred is the realm of encounter where we cultivate quality of soul. This is where we get our substance and sense of meaning. Eros Divine is the realm of experience where we celebrate vitality of spirit. This is where we get our orientation and sense of direction. When we mindfully balance soul and spirit with heart, keeping in mind that the body is a vessel for soul and a vehicle for spirit, the result is twofold: involvement and engagement.

Whatever we do mindfully, we do purposefully. When we cultivate quality of soul through involvement with the subjects and objects of our interest, we feed soul with sacred encounters, and when we celebrate vitality of spirit through engagement with the subjects and objects of our experience, we feed spirit with divine experiences. Encounters with soul give us encounters with mystery. Experiences of spirit give us experiences of mastery.

As we'll see in subsequent posts, the ultimate mystery and ultimate mastery lie at the heart of who and what we are.

From Prosaic to Sublime

We attract what we attend. More precisely, we attract more or less, the more or less we attend.

So, for example, the more I dwell in peace, the more I give my love, the more I share my joy, the more I follow my bliss, the more I conduct myself with grace, the more easily and quickly I tend to attract peace, love, joy, bliss, and grace into a place where I can make them manifest.

The key word here is "place". Ekos.

"Into a place" might mean "into my body" or it might mean "into my home" or "into my office or clinic or lab" or "into my car or truck" or "into my own private space" - into any place where I feel at home, where I feel "in-place". The more I value this "place", the more sacred I treat it, the more "in-place" I feel.

And the more "in-place" we feel, the more easily we can use our places as vessels of transformation, as containers for creative and divine expression.

When we feel safe and secure in our places, we feel free to explore, to examine, to elaborate, to explain, to express - creatively and productively, effectively and efficiently. When we feel safe and secure in our places, wherever they might be for us, we feel called to meet a purpose beyond need.

With needs met, our desires have a better chance of providing a means by which we can know a purpose. When we feel at home - in our bodies, in our places of residence, in our workplaces, in our own private spaces - we have the confidence to find, to know, and to meet a purpose.

To begin to balance the sacred and divine, we simply need to find our places, keep them safe and secure, and give our desires free reign so that we might find a purpose that resonates with our sense of place, before striving to meet this purpose creatively, productively, divinely.

A prosaic life need not remain prosaic. Any sacred place that supports a divine purpose can (and will) transform prosaic need into sublime intent.

How might we realize a purpose and still keep our balance?

For me, at this time, this is the million-dollar question.

Balance, Sacred and Divine

We attract what we attend.

If we find ourselves in the habit of saying, "I don't need this" or "I don't want this", then the image or feeling associated with [what it is we think or feel we do not need or want] builds up a charge, attracting the very thing we do not need or want, compelling us to repel it all the more forcibly.

In a vicious cycle.

Is there a way out?

Unfortunately, this situation is not a simple matter of letting go, of releasing the sense of not needing or wanting what it is we do not need or want. We might release repeatedly many such instances of this sense of not needing or wanting as they arise. And still, they return to invade our peace of mind.

What to do?

Basically, we take a stand with what we choose to attend and attract.

Ultimately, the answers lie in cultivating two habits of mind: (1) gather impressions of increase with a focus on quality, clarity, and vitality; and (2) prevent impressions of decrease with a selective ignorance of loss, lack, and limitation.

To make it easy to do this consistently requires two compatible frameworks: religious (Ekos Sacred) and spiritual (Eros Divine).

For me, it's not enough to simply cultivate the sacred dimension of life and it's not enough to simply celebrate the divine dimension of life. Putting too much emphasis on one at the expense of the other does not bring us balance in both satisfaction and fulfillment, which is what we ultimately desire.

I would encourage anyone to be mindful of this balance.

More to come on how to strike the balance.

Celebrate Eros Divine

Eros, in the Greek myth of Eros and Psyche, is the god of a particular kind of love, the kind of love infused with desire, in anticipation of meeting sensual or sexual desire. In the psychology of Freud, Eros is construed as the sum of all instincts that preserve life, manifesting as impulses to gratify basic needs, to protect and preserve body and mind. In the philosophy of Plato, Eros is conceived as a fundamental creative impulse infused with a sensual element.

The archetypal, psychological, and philosophical faces of Eros, respectively, speak to the necessity of desire in relation to love. Love, by itself, is virtually lifeless; desire, by itself, is all but loveless; but when you blend love and desire responsibly and creatively, you find your divinity. Celebrate Eros Divine is really just a shorthand way of saying, "celebrate vitality of spirit through the experience of love and desire, balanced responsibly and creatively".

The key word here is experience, both as noun and as verb. Where encounter is sacred, experience is divine. Where the depths are sacred, the heights are divine. Where the orientation of sacred souls is downward vertical, the orientation of divine spirits is upward vertical. Where the sacred masculine essence goes, the divine feminine spirit follows, and where the divine feminine spirit goes, the sacred masculine essence follows. Where encounters with mystery are sacred, experiences with mastery are divine.

Encounters of soul and experiences of spirit take on a whole new perspective when viewed in terms of sacred and divine, but the orientations of soul through Ekos Sacred and the orientations of spirit through Eros Divine move in fundamentally opposite directions. Are these orientations reconcilable? Can they be balanced? If so, how might they be reconciled? How might they be brought into balance, both from above and from below?

For lovers of life and masters of mind, these questions are essential to lives lived well. In essence, what seductive wisdom is required to find and keep the balance between Ekos Sacred and Eros Divine?